As women, we are always comparing. Comparing our homes, our wardrobes, our husband’s jobs, our own jobs. “Wow, I wish my house looked like that.” Or, “How does she manage to makeover her whole home, spend time with her kids and husband, work 40 hours a week and have time to sleep and enjoy life?!” Even if it’s just a fleeting moment, those thoughts cross our minds often. And in the world of blogging, it’s even more prevalent. You see pretty people and pretty homes all. the. time. It’s hard to feel like you can stand out as an individual when it’s all been done. It’s all been cooked, baked, painted and styled. And then you wonder if your recipe for banana nut bread will be as good as xyz blogger. Ugh. It’s just an exhausting cycle.
But all we see is what the camera shows. Behind the curtain there may be a cluttered, messy room, a marriage in trouble or financial hardship. We don’t know what goes on behind the scenes; we only see what they want us to see. Even knowing that, it’s hard to stop comparing.
I look around me right now and see toys on the floor, unfolded blankets on the chairs and children’s books strewn about. I continually judge myself and my shortcomings. I never think my home is good enough, or my recipes are tasty enough. I don’t think my posed blog photos are enough. I never think I’m enough. I’m not a good enough wife, mother, friend. I’m just not enough. And like I said, throw in media and beautiful bloggers and you’re just overwhelmed.
But my family is happy. And we live within our means. And we love. We may not have the perfect everything, but really, who does? And really, who is perfect? We all have our shortcomings. It’s being able to look past all our faults and see that we are enough. To find true happiness within.
I don’t know where I heard this but it rings so true for me right now. “You should only try to be better than the person you were yesterday.” Because really, that’s who we should be comparing ourselves to. Who we were yesterday may not be who we are today and each and every day I want to be better than I was the day before. Does it always happen? Heck no. But I keep on trying. And at the end of the day that’s what’s important.
This post turned into something different than I originally intended, but hey, sometimes that happens when you just start typing. Yesterday my friend Jennifer wrote a post entitled “To the Mom Who Thinks She’s not Enough.” Which is really funny because I’ve had this post in draft for months and have been working on it for the last few days. I guess I’m not the only one who often feels like it’s important for us to let our fellow mothers, friends, bloggers know that you are enough. Because you are. Don’t ever forget that.
On a different note, my sweet friend Joey wrote an e-book! The girl is just an amazing writer. And right now Yeah, Maybe is on sale for $1.99 on Amazon! You can also click the book cover photo at the top of my sidebar.
Here’s a little blurb from the book:
For quiet, reserved, and focused 15 year old Annie Mackey, school was a sanctuary. But when her bubbly and beautiful neighborhood best friend joins her at Willow Point High for freshman year, her world is turned upside down.
Everything Annie could count on for stability is shattered, and she’s left feeling more alone than ever before.
Just when she’s about to lose all hope, someone unexpected swoops in and gives her a much needed lesson in perspective.
I cannot wait to read this book! Pick it up on sale now through the 28th.
Happy Tuesday love bugs!