Have you ever had those moments in your life where you realize that all people care about is themselves and money? I had that moment last week. Okay, that may sound a bit dramatic, but that’s exactly how I felt at the time.
K and I have been throwing around an idea of a new venture we want to start. We think it would be a great fit for us and are super excited about it! I reached out to someone I know through blogging and their side business to get some advice. Just a quick email was all I was asking for. It could have taken this person less than 10 minutes to respond to my 2 questions.
Instead she told me no. She told me no! This person I looked up to and admired and was looking to for help. She said no, she wouldn’t help me.
And I cried. I sat at my desk at work and took deep breaths and held back the tears as best I could. But I was a little heartbroken. Alright a lot heartbroken. Heartbroken because when did helping one another turn into it being all about the money? When did answering emails and helping our fellow mommy turn into consulting?
You may think I’m silly for having cried, but I was so excited (and a little nervous) when I wrote the email the night before. I was excited to be taking the first steps to starting this new business that could change our lives. Excited because this person I was reaching out to always talks about helping out other moms and her and her husband have made a great life for themselves by helping others. This person blogs about inspiring other moms and supporting one another.
But she couldn’t support me.
I understand that everyone’s time is valuable. I understand that time is money and we all have things going on (did you read my post last week? We’re definitely a busy family.). I wasn’t asking for a consultation (I work with consultants in my job every single day. I know what consulting is). I was just asking her to answer a few quick questions for me and she said no.
I’ve been working on saying no more often as well. I’m not always successful at it, but I’m trying. But I can honestly say I would never say no to someone coming to me asking for advice. Especially another young parent wanting to start something that I’ve had great success with. If they were looking for a long term consulting relationship, that would be different. But even the greatest consultants, motivational speakers and entrepreneurs give a bit of advice for free every now and then.
But ya know what? It’s alright. That short interaction taught me something. Fear of failure and fear of rejection are two major fears that people have and yes, I was nervous to send that email, and when I was rejected it was demoralizing. But our true character shows in how we deal with rejection and failure. Do you let it beat you down and continue to demoralize you, or do you get up, dust yourself off and press on? I chose the latter.
[Tweet “Our true character shows in how we deal with rejection and failure.”]
So yes. I was let down by a fellow blogger. A fellow mommy. And I was heartbroken. But it only made me more motivated to succeed. It also inspired me (in some backwards way) to be there for other women. To be there to support them, and help them, with any questions they may have. To surround myself with women that inspire me and who I hope to inspire. Because isn’t that what life is about, loving and supporting one another?